Parenting through a divorce

On behalf of South Tampa Law Group posted in child custody on Wednesday, June 21, 2017.

Parents across Florida know it is hard work to make sure their children are happy and healthy, but parenting through a divorce adds an entirely new level of difficulty. Keeping children out of the middle when dealing with the feelings of frustration, anger, and sadness that are often present in a divorce is as necessary as it is challenging.

As the Washington Post explains, making sure the children are safe and well-cared for is the most important step, which means if one parent is not safe for the kids to be around, immediately dealing with that through orders of protection is imperative. However, if the kids are safe around both spouses, protecting them from the animosity should be a focus of both spouses. Even in times of conflict divorcing couples must “find a way to love their kids more than they may hate their exes.”

According to Huffington Post, this can be best accomplished by agreeing not to fight when the children are present and refusing to say disparaging comments about their other parent. If the ex-spouse is not a danger to the children, the best interest of the child is to be able to have a relationship with both of their parents. Keeping this in mind, a parent who puts their children first in divorce will react positively when their children report positive things about their time with the ex. Supporting the children’s relationship with their other parent means communicating neutrally with the ex and showing up on time for custody exchanges. Allowing children to have both of their parents will make them feel loved, even though their lives are going through significant changes and turmoil.